What a genius podcast format & so sad to see it go. Please return!

I really like the concept of the podcast. There’s great potential. The thing that doesn’t work for me is hearing some of the dates and thinking “oh they really aren’t a match” and then the host doing the recap of the date and saying how great they thought the date was. I’m like did we listen to the same date? Like there’s less talk about what the person may be doing that is holding their dating life back and more talk about why they should’ve been a match when the main person didn’t like who they were set up with. Also some of the questions suggested when the conversation is running low are just not it. If someone on a date asked me to tell them something I wouldn’t normally say on a first date I’d be like 🥴 or what the last self help book I read was? It feels very forced and put on the spot like a job interview which is just not the vibe a first date should have. Also not everyone likes self help books.

Please bring back this wonderful podcast 🙏🙏🙏

I love this podcast. I subscribed so that I could stay updated when they post and then they stopped posting. 🥺 I can tell that the creator put a lot of work into this podcast. Where as most people just turn on the mic and start rambling. I love the stories and just really hope they start posting again! ❤️

Listening. Interesting show. Would love to hear you do a combo show with my favorite episodic, serial podcast Community News by Paul and Sasha." They and you have some great dating stories.

One-note, homogeneous people on boring, talky dates commented-upon by naive and sometimes vapid hosts and a couple of un-trained or one-note “experts” (Esther Perel aside, amazing). Obvious bad attitudes or behaviors of the struggling dater-guests aren’t addressed with the person directly, just in post-production commentary. Just throw another person to date at them rather than address obvious shallowness or blind-spots? (The self-important Dr.? Khan??) Then, the pay-wall.

I’ve tried to listen to other dating podcasts but nothing really compares. You are all so natural and real in the way you engage with your matches. You are discovering moment to moment what works and doesn’t for your matches and yourselves. Your interactions with them and yourselves is what makes it work. Who you are as people comes across as strongly as who your matches are but you your revelations about them and yourselves are without judgement. Your personalities suit what you do perfectly. Looking forward to the next season. Worth the wait and I hope you figure out how to streamline the process so we get more. If not it’s because you’re so good.

I love this podcast. I've learned a lot about myself and dating. Using some of these lessons has helped my dating life. Can't wait for season 2!

Esther Perel is above reproach and a literal genius but the rest… Attachment theory isn’t being used appropriately. Are we really going to set up a doctor who likes wine with a recovering alcoholic who lives with his parents? And yet, too many of the same type of person. Very vocal fry, Bay Area or nyc yuppie, very stereotypical boring folks. There’s also a really big problem with this idea that we’re going to find people who are chronically single and put them on a blind date when we know that they’re bad at dating. The questions are nice but it’s not enough because pretending to be vulnerable isn’t the same thing as being vulnerable. When we have chronically single folks we can’t “fix” it by throwing more dates at them or telling them their patterns. THEY KNOW. Just like obese people know fewer calories will help them lose weight. It’s a lot deeper of a problem than that. The walls built since childhood aren’t coming down this way.

This is my first review of any podcast and I listen to plenty. I love this podcast, I need more episodes.

It always privilege to listen to dissimilar ideologies and experiences

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Virginia is off putting and I doubt she will ever find a companion. Secondly she’s should go back to where she came from. It’s incredible to me to have listened to people like her (liberal Democrats) spout tolerance, love, etc., yet has none towards people that don’t go along with the party line. The last person she had a date with that’s having his brother move in w him? Her intolerance will sabotage any hope for that to work.

I enjoy this podcast a lot. Brave of people to participate in it.

I binged this entire show. I listened to the whole thing quickly, and I was so hungry for another episode. I adore Esther Perel and have also listened to a massive chunk of her content. The episode about open relationships w Jessica Fern, opens with the hosts mentioning all of the various kinds of dates and dating that people can engage in. I have been polyamorous for the majority share of my relationships. I am exploring monogamy now. I am interested in people of all genders and I have historically been a huge sl*t, in the best way. The episode with Aziz and Manny hit home because I also live n the Bay Area. However… the handling of the elements of gay culture in this episode felt clumsy and awkward. The hosts didn’t seem to know what they were dealing with, and didn’t seem to know enough about gay culture to successfully facilitate this date. I recoiled when the question about sex on the first date was asked, and then when the hosts responded to what those men said about their exploits. Their activities were framed as like scandalous or salacious. It wasn’t so much that it felt shamey but more that the degree of surprise felt out of step with the culture of the two people on the date. I worry a little that if this show continues, and expands.. if there is a wider reach of people that are on the show! A huge variety of people… are these hosts equipped to deal with a wide variety of people? Charming perverts? People who engage in BDSM? Dykes? Trans women who want to date cis men? Like…. I can’t say I would be confident about their handling of this. And this would all be fine! No one can understand every direct experience… but there does seem to be a level of “oh well I understand the gay men!” Maybe theres a moment to bring on some coaches for the coaches. The episode with Jessica Fern is a good example.. but would she coach the hosts through handling the dating life of people looking for romance with more than one partner? I get the impression that these women (the hosts) are from a specific world, have a specific world view, and I think would benefit from some different viewpoints.

Enjoying.

Super compelling idea for a podcast and I would say fair execution of the first season. One potential suggestion for having several hosts is to identify the speaker (maybe during the editing process) or have the hosts indicate who they are as they are speaking (which I realize may disrupt the conversational flow). In the absence of one of these solutions, I would continue to find it hard to follow who is talking. My other feedback is that the Logan Ury, the show’s resident ‘behavioral scientist,’ doesn’t have much range beyond attachment theory, which although is evidenced based, has its limitations as any approach does. I wonder if the producers have considered consulting with someone with a bit more experience and therapeutic range? It appears Logan Ury has only Bachelor’s level formal education. While she is well-spoken, I find her general tone and cadence of speech to be unsettling and rushed. I am a clinician and behavioral scientist myself and might imagine the daters on the show would benefit from someone with a bit more poise, equanimity, and expertise. Ester Perel is, of course, a leader in the field and would add exponentially, beyond what she already does, to this show. And, yet I realize it may not be a realistic suggestion to add more of her to the show. Perhaps there is someone else who isn’t quite at the Ester Perel level but who is a step above Logan. I think that person is out there. Actually, I think Jesse Baker may be a good fit. I find her perspective to be spot on therapeutically. While she may not have formal training, her work with Ester may have imparted a high level of wisdom. I think the delivery and content of her commentary is spot on.

JAMES! Please give him his own season where we find him the love he deserves.

Love the dates convos themselves, disagree with the two analysts. The only person I trust is Esther perel who they occasionally bring on. The rest of the ppl I feel like categorize ppl very generally and superficially without getting to the root of their problems

I think the idea for this show is amazing and the way it is presented allows for some good episodes. But I’m paying $4.99 per month and you uploaded 1 episode in May. Maybe the production ran into some troubles, maybe they’re preparing for a second season, I don’t know. But they haven’t communicated anything about it and unfortunately I have to cancel my subscription because I won’t pay more money for another empty month.

I’ve been following Logan Ury’s work this year which is how I tuned into This is Dating. While I have some complaints, overall, I have enjoyed this podcast. The episodes are short, I love eavesdropping on the dates, the daters are diverse, the hosts are cute and I really like Logan’s insight (though it’s more limited than I expected). Starting a new podcast isn’t easy and I appreciate how professional this sounds while also taking a different set up than a lot of podcasts that are out there right now. If I had one actionable critique - I’d love to listen to one dates story at a time instead of bouncing around. Once I’m invested, I’m curious to learn more of *that* person’s journey. I haven’t been a huge fan of the episodes that veer away from the daters. I do not do the paid subscription. Either way, I find I relate to the dating scenes portrayed which makes me sad as a dater but happy to know I’m not alone in my experiences.

Just say something is missing and leave it alone.. nobody is hurt this way and you move on.

To use the excuse that because she’s a doctor and super successful is the reason she hasn’t found someone is just that, an excuse. Can you imagine meeting someone who said (directly or indirectly) that you’re intimidated by them because of their profession or perceived “success”? You’re basically saying “You can’t keep up with me and you’re not enough.” I think her issue is that she doesn’t have an identity outside of her career. Her fridge says it all, it’s empty; there’s no depth beyond her profession. There are thousands of female doctors and millions of successful women who have found love and a partner in life.

Love this show, but I’m frustrated with the slow roll out. I’m just not gonna buy my podcasts. I listen to too many! But it’s Very well done. Relatable people & ideas.

Great pod but very hard to follow sometimes given how the episodes are organized esp as it relates to paid versus free content.

I wish that instead of making entire episodes available only to subscribers, producers would use ads and a lack thereof to sell subscriptions (like the Savage Lovecast does, for example). I got invested in the lives of these daters and I am bummed that I would need to pay up to continue with them on their journeys. That said, this is a five star podcast. Absolutely loved what I was able to access.

I want to like this podcast… I REALLY do. But it’s so surface level and the honestly the hosts build up the individuals way too much and it doesn’t dig deep. I truly don’t think this is worth anyones time.

I love hearing the feedback and advice. It’s also really fun to hear follow up dates and you get a like invested in the people going on dates! The hosts are thoughtful and with you problem solve so that the person has a better chance at finding a compatible match. Loved the episode on attachment styles too.

I would have enjoyed a more standardized format. For example, individual’s background, then more date content, and less discussion. It’s more interesting to hear palpable chemistry as it unfolds than to dissect it too heavily. I agree with the other reviewer that there is always opportunity to add in a diverse age range. Subscription services are a total turnoff as well. Additionally, jumping around with the timeline is confusing. I think staying with one person’s journey in the episodes sequentially makes more sense, because I can’t remember who is who and I forget two minutes later.

getting progressively worst over time. started out really interesting. put up with the silly subscriber model to give it a chance (even though they keep relabeling old episodes as new ones)…but then they veered off from posting dates into talking about polyamory. please get back on track!

I think the premise is interesting but the pace is so slow and the tone is so serious. Even the way the ads are read is a downer. Can we add some humor or levity, or speed it up a bit? I like the dating coach’s relationship insights- that’s the main draw. Listening to the dates is a bit cringy but I guess that is just dating. I would be more interested to listen if the daters actually seemed invested.

Here’s the key part: The dating coach said “find a secure attached person” if you have a anxious or disorganized attachment. HOWEVER per the research secure attached people do NOT stay with anxious or disorganized people as it is foreign and unfamiliar to them. They choose secure attached people. Instead she should’ve advised to do the work on becoming secure — as we are not tied to our attachment for life.

I wish there were more episodes but that’s only because the quality and content is amazing. Experts on the show are foremost in their field. It’s 100% worth investing time and subscription.

I was following the show but then I unfollowed because it no longer applied to my life. I check the app and I am still following it without the “follow” tab being enabled. This is making me view the podcast negativity because of this bug NPR One has.

The delivery of the hosts is so slow which is hard to listen to. Most importantly it’s challenging to get into it when you can’t access the follow up episodes. You lose momentum and lose interest. Premise is great.

The podcast itself is really good, but the way it’s structured/ordered makes absolutely zero sense, which is especially annoying since I’m paying to subscribe. I also think for a paid subscription episodes should be weekly (they are very short).

Mediocre at best in hosts insights and depth…*eyeroll*. It’s entertainment sure, formatting is decent, and quality of production aside from the unavoidable sound issues ok, but the bloody frustrating release schedule and subscription issue is enough of a maddening experience to write the whole thing off…even if it is free days later or something. In this age we are in that is an embarrassment of riches when it comes to excellent podcasts this is a HARD PASS.

Love the actual podcast, hate everything about the listening experience. I'm not paying for the podcast but subscribed to it. I guess that's why the new episodes don't download automatically??? I have to remember to go to the store and manually download each week. The order of the dates is confusing; hard to remember who is who between their dates, as weeks pass. And the order of the episode listing in the itunes store is confusing; not in chronological order. Again, I'm really enjoying the content but don't understand why everything else is such a mess.

my listening experience was cut off after episode 9. “Subscribe and listen ad-free!” No thanks. That’s actually how I learn about new podcasts and get promo codes on great products. Anywho, the show is great, I love the hosts, the guests, and the content. A lot of it is very relatable to my dating experiences. I would love to give it a five star rating, but I won’t pay $2.99 a month for it. Best of luck on the show, ladies!

I’ve only listened to the free episodes, but the latest discussion has so much depth. These women are presenting dating in real life as authentically as possible. I’m curious about how this podcast will evolve. I’d like to hear four daters in their late 50s answer some of these same questions about the challenge of finding love online, what it means to fall in love, and what a loving relationship could be.

Makes. Me wonder….. is something.. bad .. going to happen to these daters? I guess the nearly whisper delivery and pauses are to add drama and seriousness but with the music it feel ominous and depressing. Maybe I should listen at 1.5 speed. Like the content otherwise.

I ended up subscribing but regretting it, because there’s really not much content for the price, and episodes are organized in a really confusing way! Out of order, show displays that there are new updates, but no new episodes displaying- very poorly executed.

When the episodes are actual dates - the premise of the show - it’s a great podcast worth subscribing to. However I’ve never seen a more confusing release schedule and the filled episodes in the middle are deeply underwhelming and not what I signed up for. If the show is hard to produce then switch to ads before going subscription and build up a flow. I’m more frustrated than amused and that’s a bummer because the content itself when it’s good is really good. I hope y’all can take this feedback in and make some changes!

What a treasure he is ❤️

The dating “coach” seems to just dispense common sense?

Hoping to clear up a few things that seem to be confusing about the paid subscriptions.. The podcast is 100 percent free for everyone. If you want to be a paid subscriber you get episodes a week or two early and ad-free. The episode numbers are off if you are a paid subscriber becasue you are getting episdoes as they are finished and not necessarily in the order that they will come out for free for the people who want to wait for their new episodes.

How do I cancel my subscription?

I have really enjoyed this podcast but agree that having it subscription based is sort of crazy considering the amount of content available. Would prefer they do ads in order to make money instead of asking new listeners to have to subscribe without getting much in return. If they had 100 episodes already banked then I think that’s different but with only 10 it’s a lot to ask of people.

I enjoy your content a lot, which is why it’s so frustrating that it’s not better organized. Your feed is kind of a mess making it hard to discern where to find the newest episode. Episodes aren’t listed consecutively or accurately numbered. The dates don’t align with episode numbers, you list 11 episodes and yet one episode is numbered 12. If I’m paying for premium content professionalism matters right down to the details.

good podcast overall, but the subscription seems a little ridiculous.